Attachment is a very strong disabler. Unfortunately, it can create bonds between us and unhealthy objects, people, or things that may even grow from us. This brings me to an issue that myself and anyone that places a high value on their hair may find touchy. I was once attached to my strands. After the first several run-ins with a pair of sharp shears, I was able to let go and big chop my curls.
If you have formed an attachment to your split ends, damaged ends, heat damage, broken strands, fried curls, or unhealthy locs, I implore you to let it go to make room for your beautiful and healthy curls. You are not your hair. Your hair does not define you. Your hair does not define your beauty and your hair will never make you feel truly whole inside. In order for you to have the hair of your dreams, you must let it grow and be okay with cropping the portions of your hair that are essentially harmful to the rest of your strands.
I speak on this because I experienced horrible damage in 2014. I scheduled an appointment at a popular salon called Étae in Philadelphia. This salon specializes in avoiding heat damage and in maintaining healthy hair. I requested the renowned treatment that ran a pretty penny and I was greeted with harsh hands that did not diligently care for my hair. I went in for a trim and I left with heat damage that destroyed the healthy state of my hair. For months I struggled with the texture change.
The perimeter of my hair was wavy. The rest of my strands were coily. I decided to chop it off believing that I could grow my hair out and that one day I would be able to even the field. I decided that I didn’t want to have to constantly manipulate and hide my curls because of the damage to my crown and I decided to make my way to a natural salon in Philadelphia called, Duåfe. I had a great experience and I’m glad I big chopped. See my experience in the video above.
